Thoughts on American Porn

I’m living on my own for the first time in my life, and have very quickly taken advantage of the new freedoms it affords me: Having a bath with the door open, playing Morrissey too loud, wanking in the living room, you know the sort of thing.

Of course this also means I’ve been downloading internet porn at all hours of the day or night. Most of it is American.

And my god, this stuff is appalling! Fundamentally it fails in its central task: It isn’t a turn on. But more worrying, it often seems to depend on insulting, belittling and generally subjugating the woman. Every film involves a man stood up recieving a blow job from a woman on her knees (don’t most people do oral sex lying down?) while the man utters banal lines along the lines of “yeah baby, suck that cock”, notice that’s an order. Websites have dreadful names like “treat her like a whore” (this slut fucked by a new stranger every week) or “cock hungry bitches”

Gonzo type porn, seems to regard the women as the enemy and the act of sex is punishment (for what?). When you see the idiot with the camcorder talking the woman into bed, their ham-fisted, mono-syllabic sledgehammer approach usually has the women rolling her eyes, even when it’s fake and the woman is a pornstar guaranteed lay.

The men in these pornos always externalise their arousal: (This bitch has turned me on). In doing so they put the woman on a pedestal and then resent them for being there (now she’s gonna get it). It seems to me that sexual attraction isn’t about how a woman looks, but is more about how we look at a woman. Women don’t turn us on, we turn ourselves on.

My take on all this crap is this: Inadequate men who know they cannot exist as equals to women then validate themselves through dominating them and belittling them.

Kids will look at this porn and learn lessons from it, and right now there must be a whole generation of kids growing up thinking sex is about domination, women need to be in their place and that women who enjoy sex are sluts and whores.

Where is the art and the beauty? Naked bodies are beatiful, sex is fun, but you’d never know this from the crap on the internet.